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Break Up Survival Guide: 3 Tips To Help You Move On

If you are looking for a break up survival guide, the following few tips will perhaps help you navigate through the tumultuous feelings that you may be feeling right now. After a breakup life as you know it turns upside down, old relationship wounds resurface, and your heart may be heavy from heartbreak. This may be hard to hear now, but a breakup can be a beautiful process if engaged with in a conscious way. A breakup can be a chance to reclaim yourself, your power, and your life.

After I broke up with a boyfriend I was dating for a year, I was distraught because all of the hopes and dreams that I had created for the two of us had come to an end and I was left with a void. A big chunk of my life was now missing and it was uncomfortable and painful.

Break Up Survival Guide Tip 1: Take a Trip

I needed to start filling this void. One of the first things I did to heal my breakup pain was to get out of my house and take a trip. I went on a week long meditation retreat in the mountains of Oregon. I was now out of my regular environment that would have only reminded me of my ex boyfriend. Being in this new environment sped up my healing process and I came back feeling nurtured and renewed.

Break Up Survival Guide Tip 2: Talk It Out

Every time I was having a little meltdown I’d call one of my loving girlfriends and they would emotionally support me by letting me talk it out. It would have been completely impossible for me to heal after a breakup if I did not have someone to talk to. One of the reasons I created Breakup Recovery Now was so that you would have someone to talk to about your breakup struggles. I don’t want anyone to have to go through a breakup all alone.

Break Up Survival Guide Tip 3: No Contact

I’m a big believer in making a clean break after a breakup. This means no contact at all. No phone calls. No text messages. No emails…..and definitely no physical contact. I know this may seem like a hard thing to do, but it so necessary to help you in moving on. I made the mistake of emailing my ex-boyfriend after a month and a half after we broke up. I was hoping for a certain response from him, and all the email did was open up the breakup wound again. Maintaining the “no contact” rule after a breakup will speed up your recovery process. I know it’s so hard, but it’s one of the best actions to take to help you move on with your life.

At Breakup Recovery Now we are here to listen to you and guide you through the deep feelings you may be experiencing. We can help you learn how to survive a breakup with ease and grace. If at any time you are feeling under supported and could use another loving ear to listen to you, take a step towards your healing and give us a call.


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How to survive a breakup: Detach from your relationship in a healthy way

Trying to figure out how to survive a breakup can be exhausting. Breaking up is painful. You may be feeling alone, confused, angry, or all of the above. Maybe you didn’t see all of this coming or maybe your were the one who ended the relationship, but you are still struggling from this great BIG loss. During this time of surviving a broken heart, it’s important that you give yourself the space to heal and recover from this trauma in a healthy way.

When I broke up with a boyfriend of mine that I dated for two years I could not stop crying and was completely traumatized from the breakup. I felt like my life had turned upside down. He was the center of my universe and, all of a sudden, he was not in my life anymore. And to top it all off, at the end of our relationship he did something that left me feeling deeply hurt and betrayed. I wish I had a break up survival guide to help me navigate through this process!

In order to disconnect from all of the overwhelming pain I was feeling, I made the UNCONSCIOUS choice to despise and hate him. This man that I so deeply loved quickly became the man that I so deeply hated. Despising him helped me to not feel so engulfed by my feelings, but because I did not detach in a healthy way, I did a tremendous amount of damage to myself and my heart. I sabotaged my ability to love again because my heart became filled with bitterness and resentment.  I thought that this was how to survive a breakup.

For a long time I blamed him for all of this pain that I was feeling, but it was not until I took full responsibility for my part in the relationship  that I was able to start opening my heart to love again. Why did I allow myself to stay in a relationship that did not fulfill my needs? Why did I give up on asking for what I needed? It was not until I started answering these types of questions for myself, that I was able to reclaim my own power and move on. After a period of time I was able to finally forgive my old boyfriend. The pain that dwelled in my heart on a daily basis began to depart and I started to feel alive and happy again.

At Breakup Recovery Now, we guide you on how to survive a breakup and the process of detaching from your relationship in a healthy way. We will help you learn how to take responsibility for yourself and your relationship so that you can survive a broken heart and fully reclaim your power and keep your heart open to love again. You don’t need to continue struggling with this breakup pain on your own. Feeling supported is just a phone call away.

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Struggling with breakup grief

A breakup can be one of the most traumatic experiences one can go through, and it’s not easy to face it all alone. At Breakup Recovery Now we are here to support you if you are struggling with breakup grief.

It’s normal to feel confused as to why life has brought you this kind of pain and disappointment, and spend days just going through the motions, feeling numb or lost. If you find that the pain keeps resurfacing and a deep loneliness is beginning to set in, know that you have support available to you.

Sometimes the grief gets too hard to bear and you just need someone to talk to. It hurts so much, and having a kind and loving ear to talk to can make all of the difference in the world. Please call us now.